Counselling & Psychotherapy
Find out how individual counselling & psychotherapy can support you.
Trauma & Stress
Stress management based on neuroscience & mindfulness.
Find out how neurological differences may impact on how you think, feel and behave.
Find out how Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing (EMDR) works.
Making sense of who you are and who you love.
Psychotherapie auf deutsch
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Hi, I’m Ayhan
Counsellor, Psychotherapist & EMDR Practitioner in Spain
I am queer psychotherapist & EMDR practitioner who is familiar with the life challenges we humans sometimes experience. Many circumstances can cause a great deal of suffering, such as the loss of a loved one, adversity in childhood or later in life, events that cause high levels of stress, or work arrangements that are not aligned with our needs. Over the years of my practice I learnt that a holistic approach to therapy helped many clients to feel better about themselves.
I am a UKCP accredited Psychotherapist and I graduated with an MSc in Gestalt Psychotherapy from Metanoia Institute in London. My practice is located at Cabopino – east of Marbella and west of Fuengirola.
Areas of Interest:
Trauma & Stress
Many clients who seek my help experience various degrees of stress from overwhelming past experiences that still impact on them even though the event has passed. These type of problems are often addressed as trauma, which may sound like a big word, but all it means is literally “wound“.
One of the areas that caught my professional interest in the past few years is neurodiversity in adults. What I mean by that is that brain differences are normal and some people think, feel and behave differently from what is considered the ‘norm’.
Counselling & Psychotherapy
Many clients who work with me often lose themselves in the service of supporting their loved ones, family, friends and colleagues, before they start looking after themselves. While values of kindness and care for others are fundamentally positive, they can cause stress, low mood and anxiety for those who miss to establish self-care.
Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing (known as EMDR) is a method that helps to address deep rooted unhelpful patterns and beliefs that cause stress. It is one of the most studied approaches in the the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress and PTSD.
Traditionally in my one-to-one therapy, clients who sought to work with me often felt as if they didn’t fit into the popular narrative: Man and women fall in love, they procreate (and have amazing sex all the time) and live happily ever after. Unfortunately this binaried narrative troubles many of my clients and the consequences for not fitting in can be overwhelming.
Psychotherapie auf deutsch in Spanien
Viele Menschen finden es schwierig Unterstützung für sich selbst in Anspruch zu nehmen. Daher freue ich mich besonders, dass sie meine Seite gefunden haben. In der eigenen Muttersprache lässt es sich oftmals einfacher reden, besonders über Dinge die einem nahe gehen oder am Herzen liegen.
I first reached out to Ayhan (in case you’re wondering, like I was, it’s pronounced the way the English say ‘iron’) when I was going through a particularly dark patch early in 2021. Having had a couple of poor experiences of therapists in Spain, I was dreading going down a similar road again. I needn’t have been worried. Even at our first meeting, Ayhan immediately made me feel at ease with his personal warmth and gentle and empathetic manner. Over the course of the following five months, Ayhan worked tirelessly to help me understand, confront and come to terms with the parts of me that would on occasion send me into self-bullying or self-destruct mode. In the process, he emboldened me to uncover layers of myself that no other therapist has ever enabled me to access. Thanks to Ayhan’s abundant skills and talents I have now attained a level of self-compassion that I could never have imagined before we met, and feel I have become a more aware, more robust and more caring version of myself. I can’t think of a better compliment for a therapist, and have no hesitation in recommending Ayhan to anyone seeking professional psychological support on the Costa del Sol. You won’t regret it.
I did EMDR treatment with Ayhan when I was in Malaga. I immediately liked his space, which is nice, clean and welcoming, and also his warm personal and equally professional attitude which made me feel relaxed immediately.
He introduced me to EMDR, explained the method to me and made sure he created a safe space for treatment. Saw my boundaries where I had some, addressed his when he had any, and was always a trustworthy and reliable guide through that process.
Ayhan is a warm, knowledgeable and trustworthy person to work with. I totally recommend working with him.
My office is located in Cabopino – east of Marbella City and in easy reach from Mijas and Fuengirola.